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Also, I’m straight, and when I’ve been single I’ve always taken a friend (usually a girl) to my date parties or formals because I’d rather take a friend then a stranger who is male. We don’t really care who you bring as your date!
I like this a lot. I go to a school of about 600 students that is in a very conservative community. It was really scary for me to go to the school and I had no intentions of being out, but I was outed by friends (with good intentions) and just kind of went with it. Everyone knows everyone on my campus, so being openly gay there were people that knew I was gay and others that didn't, but going through recruitment it never occurred to me whether it should be mentioned. Nor has it ever been mentioned as I've been the recruiter rather than the recruitee. I recently deactivated from my sorority, but I was lucky enough that my negative experience had nothing to do with my sexuality in any way. In fact, I accidentally ended up dating a sorority sister of mine, who I'm still with and is still a member of the sorority. We were advised by girls from another sorority that it doesn't go well, particularly because the largest sorority on my campus has 30 members and the smallest has 12. But we are doing well and I even promised my girl in front of the entirety of my then sisters. But we're very lucky to go to an inclusive school. I should hope that sexuality does not ever come up during recruitment, but I also understand how it might be important to know how the sorority you're consider would react to that news. So that's such a hard decision. I went to a national conference and some of the sisters were homophobic, but others were gay and there were also plenty of allies. Unfortunately homophobia is everywhere so it's hard to escape entirely. But negativity from other sisters can come in all forms. It's important to know that when going greek, all of your sisters will not be your best friend. You may not and probably won't like all of them, but others will mean a great deal to you. But sisters should be respectful of each other because you're all brought together by the same values. Gay, straight, or other.
LGBTQIA?! Holy fuck! How much longer is this acronym going to get? I've managed to keep track of it up to 'Q' but what do the 'I' and the 'A' stand for? It's seriously getting ridiculous at this point.
Awesome topic! I'm a proud Kappa Delta alumna... Two of my sisters are now married with a baby, and I do feel sad now that they were anxious to come out during college. I'm very happy that nationally, Kappa Delta allows trans girls to be initiated into our sisterhood!
dude that comment about shannon just being the chill one??? my entire life. i try so hard to present and be obviously gay short of painting myself rainbow and screaming it through a megaphone and people are still sometimes surprised when i talk about a girlfriend or something. it's so strange
theres already a p in there for pan lgbtqiaP and whats poly? polysexual? theres already bi and pan (the polysexuals) and just use lgbt+ if its too long idk why people flock to microlabels like theyre something different :x youre right there will be too many letters for things that shouldnt be there idk why cishets wanna be lgbt so bad now that its cool
that's me saying that since lgbt-etc is such a small part of the population then people shouldn't be assuming anyone is lesbian or gay etc. even if you're just trying to be nice. it's their job to come out, not everyone else's job to "find out".
For pride month it would be really great to see some underrepresented LQBTQIA+ groups represented on Pour Decisions such as asexuality and intersex individuals, especially since they are somewhat always overlooked! Or even doing something for asexuality awareness month which is October ;)
That's not exactly why, men thought themselves superior to women so they married women for reproductive purposes but had sex with male lovers because they considered it to be superior and more "pure". I think it's more of a hierarchy and class situation than admiration for LGBTQIA people in general. I doubt lesbians were as highly esteemed.
Besides being completely out in left field, your presentation is filled with words that do not belong. Think about what you are saying and practice by recording yourself and then listening to it. The word "like" has very specific meaning and the multitude of uses in your vids is completely wrong and exasperating. Before long, all I hear is the word "like" over and over again so many times that I really have no idea what your point is. Being gay is your choice, nothing else. The new acronym LGBTQIA does not change anything nor make sense of your stated condition. There is male and female and that is the end of the story. Get your head out of your arse and live as you were intended.
in my sorority, one of the sisters once tried to pass a rule that wouldn't allow our members to take other females to events and it made me so happy to see how adamantly everyone else opposed it. i feel so lucky to be a part of a chapter that is so accepting and inclusive.
Omg I'm a DG too! But I joined Delta Gamma my freshman year and I was so nervous about being gay. On National Coming Out Day, I posted a coming out pic on Instagram and I received so much support from my sisters! Since then, I've been openly out, I talk to some sisters about it, and even brought a girl to my semiformal! My sorority was beyond accepting and I'm so proud to be gay and a part of Greek life! Plus DG is super cool because it's one of the only sororities that had an anti discrimination policy (so any woman, including trans people that identify as female, can join!)
I'm a DG too. I just came out last year, towards the end of my 10 year stint as an adviser. Seeing the change in DG with their discrimination policy over the years made me confident I joined the right house.
My college had an All-Gender Greek Org, which was where all the LGBTQIA people rushed. There was an emphasis of calling it just an All Gender Greek Org to get rid of the binary system of sorority/fraternity.
beccaliterally my first thought was this and I kind of hoped they would have made like a mocktail or something. I also think they could have talked more about Greek organizations that have been formed specifically for and by lgbt+ people such as Delta Lambda Phi and Gamma Rho Lambda to name a few and local organizations. That said I know this is more about their own experiences so I can understand that.
Love the idea of the video, and support this topic 100 percent but the drinking in letters really works against all of us collegians trying to keep this under control for our chapters and sets a bad example.
Well that's the whole concept of the show. Are they going to forgo that simply because of the topic? No. They're adults of the drinking age, and alum, I don't see the problem with them drinking in letters. It's not like they're going out and getting sloppy drunk, they're in a controlled environment drinking legally and responsibly.
It's one thing to say LGBT because you're lazy but it's a whole issue if you're choosing to exclude everyone else. It's very rude and condescending; that's not for you to decide if someone is irrelevant because of their identity. As someone on the asexual spectrum myself, I wish we weren't as ignored as we usually are.
this is a little ignorant LGBTQIA or LGBT+ at least because intersex people have always been a part of the community even if they havent been included in the original acronym i feel like people are just too lazy to think and end up acting exactly how ignorant straight people act in a way that we dont like where they see something new and immediately hate it/against it my point is, it has a use/function its probably older than you
+ im not sure about the A ive always known it as ally since ace people can be/still are cishet..
it is extremely relevant
A: asexual/aromantic people experience things similar to bisexual people ("it's just a phase", "you're just growing" "have sex and it'll be fixed")
i: intersex, not always included since it is not a gender nor a sexuality but do have problems similar
q: queer another word for LGBTQIA+
q: it also means questioning
+: the plus represents all the other genders and sexualities
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