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Welcome to Pour Decisions With Candace! Each week, we’re going to go deep into those burning awkward questions you might be too afraid to ask — like tackling real-life awkward moments, dating stuff, weird body issues, how to be an “adult,” and everything in between — and I’ll give you advice in what I think is my truest form . . . under the influence, obviously. I’m not officially qualified for this, but you can trust me. I’m here to be your own personal, brutally honest, and unfiltered Google so you don’t have to sift through weird Reddit threads. Believe me, I’ve been there. And we’re going to get through it all together! Plus, I'm going to have on some of my favorite people, your favorite people, everyone's favorite people as guests to help me get through it, so please let us know in the comments below what and who you'd like to see on upcoming episodes. Be sure to subscribe: New Episodes Every Thursday Candace Lowry on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9Cqtzr7SgbAWlRJLTBRGkA Twitter: https://twitter.com/thecandacelowry Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/candylowry/ Shannon Beveridge on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/flips8trgrl3 Twitter: https://twitter.com/nowthisisliving Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nowthisisliving POPSUGAR Girls' Guide is your guide to living your '20s in style! We cover everything from DIY fashion and beauty, pop culture and comedy, recipes and food trends, celebrity news, and more. Subscribe to POPSUGAR Girls' Guide http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=popsugargirlsguide Find us on Snapchat! Username is popsugar
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Lady H. Wotton (1 month ago)
When you’re not from the US and try to figure out wtf 'drinking in letters' means and why everybody is mad about it xD
Lady H. Wotton (1 month ago)
Quick question: Is Candace queer or an ally? Just curious.
Megan Gertler (1 month ago)
I just found out that Shannon is gay!
Erin Freund (1 month ago)
Shannon is so hot, haha I’m hella gay
Bread Crumb (2 months ago)
TheBraverMe (2 months ago)
Looking up national rulings of Panhellenic sororities on your campus is a great idea! For example, my sorority is a leader in Greek life nationally on LGBTQ issues, and it makes me proud as an ally.
TheBraverMe (2 months ago)
Also, I’m straight, and when I’ve been single I’ve always taken a friend (usually a girl) to my date parties or formals because I’d rather take a friend then a stranger who is male. We don’t really care who you bring as your date!
psicofukapus (3 months ago)
U know who's really worth it? L'oreal.
Azure'Rea DiAnna (4 months ago)
I like this a lot. I go to a school of about 600 students that is in a very conservative community. It was really scary for me to go to the school and I had no intentions of being out, but I was outed by friends (with good intentions) and just kind of went with it. Everyone knows everyone on my campus, so being openly gay there were people that knew I was gay and others that didn't, but going through recruitment it never occurred to me whether it should be mentioned. Nor has it ever been mentioned as I've been the recruiter rather than the recruitee. I recently deactivated from my sorority, but I was lucky enough that my negative experience had nothing to do with my sexuality in any way. In fact, I accidentally ended up dating a sorority sister of mine, who I'm still with and is still a member of the sorority. We were advised by girls from another sorority that it doesn't go well, particularly because the largest sorority on my campus has 30 members and the smallest has 12. But we are doing well and I even promised my girl in front of the entirety of my then sisters. But we're very lucky to go to an inclusive school. I should hope that sexuality does not ever come up during recruitment, but I also understand how it might be important to know how the sorority you're consider would react to that news. So that's such a hard decision. I went to a national conference and some of the sisters were homophobic, but others were gay and there were also plenty of allies. Unfortunately homophobia is everywhere so it's hard to escape entirely. But negativity from other sisters can come in all forms. It's important to know that when going greek, all of your sisters will not be your best friend. You may not and probably won't like all of them, but others will mean a great deal to you. But sisters should be respectful of each other because you're all brought together by the same values. Gay, straight, or other.
Serafima Khenkina (5 months ago)
Can somebody explain what Greek life is all about? I never understood why people did it or what it means (I'm not from the US)
ABIGAIL HARGET (6 months ago)
I love Shannon!!
scottiemcnichols (6 months ago)
LGBTQIA?! Holy fuck! How much longer is this acronym going to get? I've managed to keep track of it up to 'Q' but what do the 'I' and the 'A' stand for? It's seriously getting ridiculous at this point.
Jorden Greer (8 months ago)
Letters and drinking? Someone call the risk chair....
Shannon K (8 months ago)
Isla J (9 months ago)
Oh my *god* Candace is so hot what the fuCK
ferncat1397 (9 months ago)
...what IS a sorority? What do you do? What are they for? They don't exist in Ireland!
iris baco (9 months ago)
since when candice is a lesbia. i mean, come on, easy sell, way too many videos about that subject, not that i mind but, she really cant represent it
Snuggle Cult Media (9 months ago)
Awesome topic! I'm a proud Kappa Delta alumna... Two of my sisters are now married with a baby, and I do feel sad now that they were anxious to come out during college. I'm very happy that nationally, Kappa Delta allows trans girls to be initiated into our sisterhood!
Nhorsey12 horses (9 months ago)
You two are so hot.
Mo Soto (9 months ago)
Shannon is so 😍😍💕
Sam Hurley (9 months ago)
she is SPITTING image of haley graham
becsays (9 months ago)
I’m an alum of a sorority and I’m gay and I related to this so hard.
puzzlekuchen (10 months ago)
Thank you for including I and A. I do not see this often.
Tiffany (10 months ago)
I love Shannon! I'm bi and also in tri delta and this video made me so happy
Peyton Flynn (10 months ago)
Candace! Thank you for making these videos on your channel, I really do feel as though they are contributing to decreasing LGBTQIAP+ stigmas.
Sanvers Danvers (10 months ago)
Awwww oh gosh i love Shannon so fucking much😍🔥🤘
Evea Gornall (11 months ago)
More videos with Shannon! She is a gift to us all
Sabrina Victoria (1 year ago)
The FULL name of the community (in my opinion) is l,g,b,t,q,i,a,p,k,PoC (lesbian,gay,bi,trans,Queer,intersexual,Asexual,pansexual,kink,people of colour)
Poperty (9 months ago)
um fuck off with that kink shit what an insult
Joshua Ogunlolu (1 year ago)
Shannon is so beautiful!!!! 😍😍😍
HarMixer What? (1 year ago)
saw shannon and clicked
Korra Asami (1 year ago)
Candace sounds like Cammie Scott, but with a laidback voice. Listen on their conversation, without looking.
sarsurvivor22 (1 year ago)
So I identify as gay and was in a sorority in Kansas, long story short I wish this existed 4 years ago! Basically find those people in your home! You are safe, find your home within your home!
Skrelli (1 year ago)
Danielle Carpio (1 year ago)
PENNY to FREEDOM (1 year ago)
4:39 - 4:37 that part gets me fur some reason lol
Ivette Trejo (1 year ago)
Shannon's beautiful 😍🤤
Be gone (1 year ago)
Wait what does the IA mean in LGBTQIA?
TwiCaCaX (1 year ago)
lilhain (1 year ago)
TheFemaleNoob (1 year ago)
Damn Shannon is fine!!!
T (1 year ago)
dude that comment about shannon just being the chill one??? my entire life. i try so hard to present and be obviously gay short of painting myself rainbow and screaming it through a megaphone and people are still sometimes surprised when i talk about a girlfriend or something. it's so strange
Kimberly Quinzel (1 year ago)
2:01 that's what people think of me too! HAHA
lindzamuly (1 year ago)
I love that Candice is a DG (ITB!!), but uuuugh it hurts that she's drinking in letters haha
Lea (1 year ago)
lgbtqiafickskeifocja how many more letters omfg... it's getting annoying.
Poperty (9 months ago)
then say lgbt+
Rebecca Kožková (1 year ago)
Im here for shannon♥️
Brianna Alexis (1 year ago)
You're not supposed to drink in letters?
Eden Skye (1 year ago)
I'm assuming that it's okay because they're alums. If DG and TriDelt don't have alum organizations, then they don't have a standards committee that they have to answer to because they're not active.
Christy S (1 year ago)
Millie C (1 year ago)
I'm British and honestly the fact sorority groups exist just makes me laugh idk why it just seems like they only happen in movies omg I didn't realise it's real life
Eden Skye (1 year ago)
Movie sororities are nothing like actual sororities.
Stephanie Eileen (1 year ago)
Shannon is so pretty yet so shy and humble. It's really endearing.
Jecha 03 (1 year ago)
Shannon 😍😍😍
Margaux Cornell (1 year ago)
Yay a fellow DG!! I'm a trans woman and have found the Greek life at my school to be very accepting.
Bla Bla (1 year ago)
shannon is so hot!!
Miss Meggy (1 year ago)
I know the abbreviation is already so long but we seriously need to add a P in there for poly people.
Poperty (9 months ago)
theres already a p in there for pan lgbtqiaP and whats poly? polysexual? theres already bi and pan (the polysexuals) and just use lgbt+ if its too long idk why people flock to microlabels like theyre something different :x youre right there will be too many letters for things that shouldnt be there idk why cishets wanna be lgbt so bad now that its cool
C*NT (1 year ago)
Shannon's face is so dlfjakdnaif😍😍help
das hasguns (1 year ago)
I would sub for pour decisions but not for everything else they post, sorry.
Amanda Ramen (1 year ago)
Thanks for being vocal about being a queer sorority girl! It definitely touches a piece of my own life, and it's nice to relate to somebody.
Leilani (1 year ago)
I'm the chill one and I'm straight...but nowadays my life is about convincing people I'm not lesbian
Poperty (9 months ago)
what a struggle :C
Leilani (1 year ago)
that's me saying that since lgbt-etc is such a small part of the population then people shouldn't be assuming anyone is lesbian or gay etc. even if you're just trying to be nice. it's their job to come out, not everyone else's job to "find out".
Maria S. White (1 year ago)
OK! I went to a religious school too and it didn't make any difference about coming out to my friends or partners from the ones outside. Maybe I just was very lucky! Be brave!!
Regina Martin (1 year ago)
Rush Gamma Rho Lambda! Queer & ally sorority :D
Liddy D (1 year ago)
For pride month it would be really great to see some underrepresented LQBTQIA+ groups represented on Pour Decisions such as asexuality and intersex individuals, especially since they are somewhat always overlooked! Or even doing something for asexuality awareness month which is October ;)
Sam Kav (1 year ago)
being apart of greek life I fell for another girl in my organization and we ended up dating for a little bit. It can work out!!! everyone is usually so excepting
POPSUGAR (1 year ago)
That's awesome!
R Mo (1 year ago)
what does the IA mean in lgbtqia? i swear in a few years there will be all letters of the alphabet in the name
SmileyCeci (2 months ago)
Nothing wrong with adding letters, it just means we're making it a more inclusive community.
Erin A. (1 year ago)
R Mo I think it's intersex and asexual
Katie Bigelow (1 year ago)
Ivy Souter (1 year ago)
She's a DG! Ahh sistah!
chey money (1 year ago)
They actually say that the Greeks used to admire the same sex couples because they thought their love was stronger 💯💯💯
SmileyCeci (2 months ago)
That's not exactly why, men thought themselves superior to women so they married women for reproductive purposes but had sex with male lovers because they considered it to be superior and more "pure". I think it's more of a hierarchy and class situation than admiration for LGBTQIA people in general. I doubt lesbians were as highly esteemed.
XTL (10 months ago)
Squeezie_B Came here to say this! Greeks didn't think very highly of women :(
Natalie deWitt (1 year ago)
LITB Girl!!!! Love you ⚓️
randylud (1 year ago)
Besides being completely out in left field, your presentation is filled with words that do not belong. Think about what you are saying and practice by recording yourself and then listening to it. The word "like" has very specific meaning and the multitude of uses in your vids is completely wrong and exasperating. Before long, all I hear is the word "like" over and over again so many times that I really have no idea what your point is. Being gay is your choice, nothing else. The new acronym LGBTQIA does not change anything nor make sense of your stated condition. There is male and female and that is the end of the story. Get your head out of your arse and live as you were intended.
Eden Skye (1 year ago)
Gay isn't a gender....
Nikki Bock (1 year ago)
in my sorority, one of the sisters once tried to pass a rule that wouldn't allow our members to take other females to events and it made me so happy to see how adamantly everyone else opposed it. i feel so lucky to be a part of a chapter that is so accepting and inclusive.
muffin and love (1 year ago)
I love Shannon and I am greek
Gilly Jack (1 year ago)
yes sorority girls!! Yes LGBTQIA support!
maodci (1 year ago)
I saw Shanon, I clicked! Easy.
Shyla Nishimura (1 year ago)
Is it just me or is it weird seeing Candice and Shannon together
Maltese Rawr (1 year ago)
Shannoooooooon love you bro
Ali G. (1 year ago)
OMG i'm from San Antonio
Andrea Chevrette (1 year ago)
Yeah, they thought I was the chill one too hahahaha!
Kass Gal (1 year ago)
-"She is the chill one'' -''Do you hear what you are saying?? LIke that's me being gayy! '' Haha Shannon i can sooo relate! lov u
Lauren Meyer (1 year ago)
My sorority big got married to our fellow sister and it was beautiful how supportive everyone was in the sorority. It also made it easier for me to be queer in my sorority since my big was queer too.
lesbehonest i only clicked the video because of Shannon . 😁
Hana Bryanne (1 year ago)
its just lgbt, babe
SmileyCeci (2 months ago)
Technically no, we want to be inclusive and not exclude non-binary, intersex, and asexual people from the community. We can say LGBTTQQIIAAP or LGBT+ if you want it to be shorter.
Totally not Copen (1 year ago)
Hana Bryanne I mean, that a shorter acronym...
Shariq Torres (1 year ago)
Tri Delts? I have 😉
Youtube is You (1 year ago)
sup with the lightening. Their neck looks like a bodybuilder, just fucking weird mate.
That kid (1 year ago)
"Thats just me being gay..." mooddd💛😂💛😅💛
Mollie Letheren Smith (1 year ago)
Candace looks so gorgeous!
roar roar (1 year ago)
Gross, did one of you go to TCU? #SicEmBears
Natalie Sadler (1 year ago)
Omg I'm a DG too! But I joined Delta Gamma my freshman year and I was so nervous about being gay. On National Coming Out Day, I posted a coming out pic on Instagram and I received so much support from my sisters! Since then, I've been openly out, I talk to some sisters about it, and even brought a girl to my semiformal! My sorority was beyond accepting and I'm so proud to be gay and a part of Greek life! Plus DG is super cool because it's one of the only sororities that had an anti discrimination policy (so any woman, including trans people that identify as female, can join!)
Amanda Lewis (8 months ago)
Gay DG over here too! I came out during our chapter retreat my junior year. Everyone was so amazing about it! ITB
mardytheparty (1 year ago)
I'm a DG too. I just came out last year, towards the end of my 10 year stint as an adviser. Seeing the change in DG with their discrimination policy over the years made me confident I joined the right house.
Anel Myrza (1 year ago)
Ahahhahaha I too was considered cool chill one when I was closeted
Boba Fettuccine (1 year ago)
Shannon made me gay
Kari Sorenson (1 year ago)
My college had an All-Gender Greek Org, which was where all the LGBTQIA people rushed. There was an emphasis of calling it just an All Gender Greek Org to get rid of the binary system of sorority/fraternity.
Larissalove55 (1 year ago)
Kari Sorenson what college? that sounds so cool
Lex W. (1 year ago)
"They're my sisters. They're my sisters. They're my sisters" 😂😂😂😂😭DEAD
beccaliterally (1 year ago)
I know we can't drink in our letters in my organization......
fancifulimpression (5 months ago)
beccaliterally my first thought was this and I kind of hoped they would have made like a mocktail or something. I also think they could have talked more about Greek organizations that have been formed specifically for and by lgbt+ people such as Delta Lambda Phi and Gamma Rho Lambda to name a few and local organizations. That said I know this is more about their own experiences so I can understand that.
HELM4499 (9 months ago)
same i was shook when i saw this
Katherine Lorene (1 year ago)
beccaliterally lol I was cringing so hard at that too. But I'd say it's a bigger deal if you're active
jpage813 (1 year ago)
beccaliterally That's all I could think about! Haha That was definitely a huge no-no in my sorority.
Nikki Bock (1 year ago)
beccaliterally i'm assuming they're alum so it's alright for them. i mean, what's gonna happen? they get called to standards? 😂😂
Sara Moncada (1 year ago)
Love the idea of the video, and support this topic 100 percent but the drinking in letters really works against all of us collegians trying to keep this under control for our chapters and sets a bad example.
Eden Skye (1 year ago)
Well that's the whole concept of the show. Are they going to forgo that simply because of the topic? No. They're adults of the drinking age, and alum, I don't see the problem with them drinking in letters. It's not like they're going out and getting sloppy drunk, they're in a controlled environment drinking legally and responsibly.
Bhagyashri Sawant (1 year ago)
shannon :)
Mattie Stricker (1 year ago)
At the begging I heard freshman year is scary especially if you are RUSSIAN 😂😂😂😂 I had to re listen to it like 4 times
bubblegumplastic (1 year ago)
I'm so happy i found this channel. the content is invariably fresh and kind and informative. having a great time watching your videos!
ResistingTheLies (10 months ago)
"informative" wow
POPSUGAR (1 year ago)
Aw thanks! We're glad you found us too :)
Claire Ferrell (1 year ago)
How about you stop generalizing "Greek life" and trying to decide if they're homophobic or not? Because Greek life includes a very broad group of people who are all different.
reem930 (1 year ago)
Katie Holmes (1 year ago)
Yes I agree
Jinxes Vixen (1 year ago)
Googling it up cause it just keeps on adding 🤔
Emnet Habteab (1 year ago)
"do you hear what you're saying? That's me being gay" hahah!!
becsays (9 months ago)
Emnet Habteab literally got the “you’re so chill” thing all the time
nikolas spadaccini (1 year ago)
I only acknowledge the LGBT part of the community. The rest is irrelivent.
SmileyCeci (2 months ago)
It's one thing to say LGBT because you're lazy but it's a whole issue if you're choosing to exclude everyone else. It's very rude and condescending; that's not for you to decide if someone is irrelevant because of their identity. As someone on the asexual spectrum myself, I wish we weren't as ignored as we usually are.
Poperty (9 months ago)
this is a little ignorant LGBTQIA or LGBT+ at least because intersex people have always been a part of the community even if they havent been included in the original acronym i feel like people are just too lazy to think and end up acting exactly how ignorant straight people act in a way that we dont like where they see something new and immediately hate it/against it my point is, it has a use/function its probably older than you + im not sure about the A ive always known it as ally since ace people can be/still are cishet..
Stacie Lee (1 year ago)
you don't get to decide who is irrelevant, and tbh, that's really rude to decide that certain people aren't relevant.
Cake Central (1 year ago)
nikolas spadaccini no one in the LGBT+ community is irrelevant. you may thing that it's just letters, but these letters represent actual people. think before you speak, bud.
Peyton Nico (1 year ago)
it is extremely relevant A: asexual/aromantic people experience things similar to bisexual people ("it's just a phase", "you're just growing" "have sex and it'll be fixed") i: intersex, not always included since it is not a gender nor a sexuality but do have problems similar q: queer another word for LGBTQIA+ q: it also means questioning +: the plus represents all the other genders and sexualities
hanzb (1 year ago)
massive crush on shannon. literally cant get enough of her face 😂 its an issue. 😋

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