Ok, in the case of the mom who committed suicide. It sounds like pp psychosis or severe anxiety. It seems like she had all the interventions possible without completely separating her from her family. I had really bad ppd after having my second which was a 32 week csection. I had a 16 month old son at home, baby in nicu and my husband was always at work. It got worse when she came home. I was reported to CPS after "acting anxious" around my newborn during a support group. It was so nerve wracking caring for a 4 pound 36 week infant who became very colicky. She was so different from my very chill first born. I had intrusive thoughts and couldn't bond with her for the first few months. I didn't admit to ppd bc I wanted cps out of my life, their involvement made everything so much worse. I could never actually hurt my baby, but I was disturbed and guilty about the intrusive thoughts. She wasn't the best sleeper and just started sleeping through the night at 14 months. She's now 16 months and life is much much better. I love her and my son equally. It took time and moving from a small trailer to a 3 bedroom house helped enormously (when she was 5 months).
I don't understand why a black woman's pains ans worries should be viewed differently from a white woman. Women know when something isn't right and what is wrong with checking? If she says check. CHECK.
My grieving to my mom's 12th death anniversary today brought me here. She died after giving birth to my youngest brother when I was 17, Though it's been a long time that it happened I'm still grieving. I don't like when people is saying at least she left a child. Yes, perhaps it is something to look at the bright side but it never lessen the pain that she left us on the time that we are still not tough enough to adulthood and left me and my oldest brother (31) with a responsibility. My father is really weak that he leave us for four years and we've had to face everything ourselves with a little help with our relatives who are constantly ranting how much we owe our survival with them. When I move abroad, i think it will somehow help me to my moving on process however, I'm depressed because I am in a country which they consider this is a taboo topic and I could never discuss how I feel without feeling guilty because today is also my brother's birthday and my mother's death anniversary. Thank you for your messages. Those are helping me to grieve in silence and listening to you made me that there's someone who could understand how I feel
After watching the soul-crushing stories of Chris and Shannan Watts and the other missing young mom from Colorado (Kelsey), whose fiance has just been arrested for murder, it was nice to see this video. What amazing men to be so aware of the care and support mothers need.
I was 5 months pregnant when this pain paralyzed me, i wait, maybe is just the pregnancy i wait 3 days,couldn't hold it anymore, went to the nearest hospital, not the hospital i was supposed to go because of my gynecologist, 2 doctors saw me,the lady: we are glad to help you but we don't anything about you,the men: u shouldn't come here in the first place,we don't know your case,so we have to start form the beginning, all kind of test , and how bad is the pain? Me: about 10. Him: so you said this is like child birth? Me: yes( tears down my eyes,while he was squeezing my right side)Seven hours later...well u have 5 fibroids, take some tylenol and rest...boi bye.. i was in shock, couldn't believe it... and guess what i look white..i can't imagine how they treat black women or indian or muslin...ps" not afraid to said was at Credit valley hospital in Ontario, Canada"
HOLD UP. I gave birth to a baby at Beth Israel Deaconess in 2015. The sexism I experienced there was disgusting! Here's my one star review: Modern technology doesn't make up for 50s style patient care...
STAY CLEAR OF DR. KELLY-STILES LABOR AND DELIVERY ANESTHESIOLOGIST. I was on the labor unit a year ago and I need answers. I was given general anesthesia during labor as decided by Dr. Justin Kelly-Stiles. My husband and I were told it was a matter of time urgency-the baby was showing signs of distress. I found out a year later that is NOT the reason listed on my chart for using GA and Dr. Stiles has since changed his tune to reflect what was written in the chart. It was a huge shock and very upsetting to be lied to. It was very important to me to be awake to meet my baby and considering she had an apgar of 2 I'm lucky it wasn't my only chance
There were a few other problems with my care that I could've put behind me if not for problems stated in paragraph one. I was told I needed a c-section because the baby "wasn't happy any more." This condescending type of talk was used through out my care, and I feel it insulted my intelligence. Still not sure if that's a BI problem or all labor personnel are trained to talk that way so as not to upset the patient but I somehow think it would be a different if men were giving birth. Also my second labor nurse called me selfish for not wanting my husband to be in the operating room with me during my c-section. I was literally in the push stage of my labor and actually scolded me. She said: "you're a mother now and you have to put some one else's life first from now on." To be fair, not every one on the labor unit was bad my first labor nurse was amazing however I feel I was communicated with so inappropriately that only one star is deserved.
Don't you feel horrible for all the women who couldn't say "ok epidural please". When my mom had twins we were overseas and she knew she wasn't going to get an epidural. She said when she knew it wasn't an option it just helped her focus on what she had to do.
I know I Shouldn't be watching this while pregnant but this is all I gotta talk to my partner about and ask what if so I could at least go in peace knowing my kids will be okay... Because this is the reality of live sometimes.
Just had the Mirena IUD the other day for my PCOS. I specifically asked what all the side effects would be (I got it to reduce my risk of uterine cancer, not to prevent pregnancy because I can’t have kids) and as soon as I got up from the table after they inserted it. I got SO light headed and dizzy. I lost all of my eyesight for three minutes and was so weak I dropped the water the nurse handed me and spilled it all over the floor and myself. Now just a few days later, half of one of my eyes suddenly starts having vision problems. It looks like there’s a grainy filter over my eye. I’m also incredibly sensitive to light. Looked online and there’s fucking lawsuits that say the IUD is connected to a problem in the brain and has caused women to be permanently blind. Like was that not important for me to know???
Before when I was experiencing PCOS symptoms, My pcp didn’t believe a word I said. Like I was there just to be there. That was until I got my ultrasound results, then she started to take me seriously. I also had experiences numbness in my chest by my heart so I went to the emergency room. They didn’t believe me. They told me it was nothing but in the same breath they said I had a fever, high blood pressure and an elevated heart rate like ???
My dad was also killed in the cancer center of the same hospital.
Doctors are so fucking sketchy. That’s why I’m going to be a nurse and then transition to be a midwife. Nothing will be kept from any patients I take care of. Absolutely nothing. We need to get rid of bitchy doctors and start complaining when they step out of line. It’s ridiculous.
Why are people still so sexist?
You give a woman a house and she’ll give you a home
You give a woman a ring and she’ll be your wife
You give a woman your sperm and she’ll give you a child
You give a woman your love and she’ll love you back with all she has
So maybe not all women are like that but it doesn’t mean you have to be a sexist about it. We’re not all perfect but we’re also no less than better.
Women are always discriminated against, when it comes to pain, whether it is childbirth/postpartum related or whether it is migraines, chronic pain, pain of any sort seems to be ignored or downplayed if it comes from a woman. It is sickening and needs to stop. When a woman says she is in pain, believe her.
The postpartum hits close to home after me and my brother were born my mom started feeling worn out and just not wanting to get out of bed and she felt stressed everyone even my mom dismissed it as “of course you are worn out you have newborn twins!” But it wasn’t until my aunt visited us for the first time to see me and my brother that she was told she should get treated for postpartum that’s when she saw a doctor and was diagnosed. My mom actually unconsciously blamed me and my brother but we didn’t know this until she went into therapy for a family talk that she apologized to me and my brother. Postpartum is hell and moms shouldn’t have to go through that.
When I gave birth I was 17 and very worried about my baby because I was high risk. Well my doctor told me my due date was a month away from my ACTUAL due date. I went in two days after my due date because I couldn’t stand the pain, the doctor didn’t even come to the hospital I was five centimeters dilated as they sent me home. I came back and the nurses tried to tell me that I couldn’t push because the doctor wasn’t there yet🙄 my birth story is screwed up
It was close for me...I had twins via c section, and they couldn't get me to stop bleeding internally, after 3 emergency surgeries and 9 pints of blood, they were finally able to stop it. You don't really ever go into childbirth thinking you might die, bc it doesn't happen near as much as it used to....but it definitely still happens. I'm lucky that I was at a top rated hospital and had a great obgyn.
My heart goes out to these families that lost these women due to pregnancy complications and like the last story not sure if you could call that post partum depression but it definitley must have been hard for her to go through. So sad. May those ladies and all whom have passed away especially at what should've been such a joyous time rest in peace. Depression is nothing to be ashamed of.
Although it’s no guarantee that childbirth is 💯 safe even in developed countries like the U.S., it’s not a common occurrence right? Most childbirths don’t result in death of the infant or the mother right? Also, how do women go through childbirth and having more children after their first child when the whole process is physically/mentally stressful/painful? How can medical professionals just blatantly dismiss their patients?
We DO NOT need MORE interventions. Women need to be free to move and labor naturally (yes there are LEGIT reasons to use technologies but routine birth isnt one of them). Leave it alone when its going well. Act fast when you need help.
RIP Tamisha! Nothing could have prevented an AFE. REDUCE the number of C-sections and birth interventions. Get women who need help, help in a timely manner! Listen to African American women! Those things will reduce the number of women dying :(
I was not believed by the doctors when I got a sudden explosion of pain that crawled from my back to my head exactly while I received the epidural. I had received the epidural before on my other 2 births but it was fine. I just started screaming in pain and I heard everyone panicking. My head hurt so bad and everything went black. I literally thought I was dying. Turns out the anesthesiologist took out spinal fluid when he was injecting me 🤦♀️ the senior anesthesiologist came in afterward and would not believe me. He kept saying it’s a migraine. I am a person with no history of migraines and I knew my exploding head was connected to the epidural. After I gave birth to my baby boy with my massive throbbing head the senior anesthesiologist came back and mentioned that the same thing happened to another women right after me! That’s what it took for him to believe that I wasn’t lying😒the unfortunate thing is that my head gets a milder version of that same throbbing every once in awhile and my scalp feels like it’s literally crawling. These are the injuries I took home with me after my 3rd childbirth and a year later looks like they are here to stay.
Women are SUCH incredible, amazing creatures and should be treated with the best of care and as queens before, during and after pregnancy, labor and delivery and after her baby is born. Always remember that WITHOUT our mothers, NO ONE in this world would be here. When a woman gives birth, it's not just her baby's birthday, it's the day she becomes a mother. This is so terrible and so sad. 😩😩😩
This is actually pretty alarming, not right at all for women not to get the care they need. No one should die from avoidable scenarios. My epidural actually got messed up and caused me to need an emergency c-section. my baby was in trouble and had to stay in the NICU for almost an extra week.
I am so glad I watched this. I just lost a good friend. She gave birth to a beautiful baby girl last week. Everything seemed fine after the birth. Then my friend had seizures while sleeping. She died 1 week after childbirth. We all wondered if her death was pregnancy related. We're all shocked and grieved. I am still grieving. I couldn't understand why. This video definitely sheds some light of what could happen to women after childbirth.
Europe does a much better job of taking care of mom's. I didn't have postpartum blues w/ my first child but my 2nd. I was fully aware about the chance of having them so I knew to call the dr right away. I knew about the chance b/c I work in the medical field.
When I was born in 1971 women got 3 days in hospital for a vaginal birth and a week for c-section. Now it's 2 & 3 days and I think it's the insurance companies. They run everything. It all comes down to &. So sad
And after we have the child all you have is the 6 week check up and don't return for a yr. NOT EVEN A FOLLOW-UP PHONE CALL after you leave hospital or after the 6 wks check-up and that is on the drs
I’m in the uk and I had half my placenta left behind I have been unwell ever since. I was told I had depression when I really had half a placenta left behind. It’s so tragic to hear about other mums and fathers it must be dreadful for the fathers and family’s left behind
I was just thinking to myself looking at the thumbnail a white woman in Murica would be quite an unlikely to be a poster-child for Moms dying in childbirth, even if it makes people look. Turns out that's exactly how it did(n't) pan out.
How's about you don't charge a sample of people from a money-grubbing greed-driven population so stupid they'd quite literally rather die to pay for an inalienable human right like healthcare and the guns that are killing innocent children everyday an exorbitant amount of money, huh, Murica? Idiots.
When I was in labor I hemorrhaged and almost died, I lost so much blood and I was very blessed to have the doctor I did she saved my life. She wasn't even my prenatal doctor I met her in the emergency room when I was 27 weeks pregnant I got food poisoning and she stuck with me the whole time. I'm so grateful that God put her in my path, and also the nurse who saw the blood and acted fast so both of us had a chance to live. I'm grateful to the nurses and doctors who saved my child's life and my life. But sadly another girl that day died, I only know this because the doctor came to the wrong family told my family that I died. The head nurse went to make sure and it was another girl. This is so very sad more needs to be done for every woman.
Maybe doctors should listen to women when they tell them something is wrong instead of just brushing it off a paranoia. Every woman that I know that has gone through childbirth has told me some type of horror story - whether it be not serious at all, or extremely extremely serious. Lots of women really do get the shit end of the stick when it comes to hospitals, and I _pray_ it will change.
1. Need national healthcare; 2. Need to go back to allowing mothers, especially first time ones, to take as long as they need in hospital without pushing them out; 3. Need national paid maternity leave; 4. Need to return to local/neighborhood physicians offices (national healthcare will allow this); 3. USA can also implement midwives and/or nurses to do home visits before the six week old MD visit to check in for health, emotional support, and education as needed.
My OB was in a group. While I had a main doctor, he made it clear he may not deliver because they rotate on call. Plus, I had some check ups with the other doctors. I really think this is for the best. If you relay on one OB, it's going to take longer be seen and others in the group may not be well briefed when your doctor isn't available. Plus, I want the doctor overseeing my delivery to be ready, not overtired, not wanting to rush. Don't forget that your LD nurses are also a major part of your care. If you don't feel comfortable with your nurse, request another one.
2015 the maternal death rate in Poland was 3 (per 100 000 given births), in th US 14.
Think about these figures!
I don't have to comment them.
You can look them up at UNICEF DATA (https://data.unicef.org/topic/maternal-health/maternal-mortality/)
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