Most people feel guilty about something in life, but some people have asked me over the years should I tell my partner I had an affair and cheated on them?
Some things we do in life we as humans we make some mistakes, a mistake is a time to refect on it and try not to do it again.
Some affairs and cheating is about playing a game of chance and trying to not get found out...
Some people have had a kiss from another, and felt it was like having an affair, then some people have lack of control in a moment and yes sex, kissing, touching and romantic meetings take place it could be once or many times.
When continueing an affair or cheating, people tend to continue to make cover up storys and tell many lies, but some people when the romantic fling ends want to tell the other peron connected to a long term relationship the truth of what happen.
In most cases it is to clear guilt or ask for forgiviness for the act of passion or lust of the time.
My advice is if this is going on, you don't need to unload your guilt on the person who was not involved in your stupid moments of your life? Deal with it if it comes out other wise shut your mouth.
If you need confession see a Priest or a counselor/therapist thats what they do for a living listen and deal with people's problems.
Dumping your guilt on a partner for your stupid mistakes might make you feel good by telling them, but you can be hurting the other person who trusts you and your word of being as faithful as possable.
As an example are you going to tell your partner the sexual positions you was in also, that still is no persons business.
But what if you was busted for the lies and cheating, then you need to deal with it. Still you can see a Priest or a Counselor/ Therapist if this is going to help with dealing with the cheating issue.
One note: Some partners know you are cheating but pretend to not know, because it could break up the family or the home you both have worked hard to build together.
As a example: I don't have to tell my wife about the American women who flirt with me from time to time, it is how I deal with it and show her respect being a married man.
People make mistakes and this is human nature, but it is when you have problems making poor choises over and over with out considering the people you are hurting... you can stop cheating by saying no, I am not going to do this anymore sneaking around.